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Father Martin is a good priest. When I went through RCIA classes nineteen years ago I kept thinking that any week now one of the instructors was going to come to me and say, Diane, we are so glad we got this chance to know you, it’s been a pleasure, we’ve probably taken you as far as we can; we wish you the best of luck…but no. I kept going to the classes—nobody objected—continuing to say I wasn’t there to join the church, just to learn, and whaddya know…after my confirmation I went to the bookstore and set out to read and think hard about where I had landed. Never once doubting that it was a commitment i had entered wholeheartedly, even though I hadn’t understood or really even read the fine print. A commitment to which I was drawn by love—and a profound trust—from which I could not back away, to which I therefore needed to conform myself. All a long way of saying I did not know what I was doing any more than the young bridegroom really knows what he’s signing up for when he stands at the altar and says “I do.” The process of growing in faith takes a long time and to this day I cannot say I live in conformity with all the guiding wisdom of the magisterium. I confessed a sin just a few years ago and it took me two years to complete my penance. I had to wait until the right circumstances arose to approach a person I had harmed, who happened to have made it clear she never wanted to see or hear from me again. The priest agreed I must exercise discretion out of respect for her feelings but urged me not to tarry; I had to search for a way to reach out to her and try to reconcile. Lucky for me the opportunity finally presented itself, like a gift. And lucky for me I had realized I had to be at full attention waiting for it. Life is complicated. It’s super messy. Mercy is not a balm to make our sins not be sins but rather a sort of life support system to keep us breathing while the healing power of the Holy Spirit does its work. Father Martin ministers to baptized Catholics struggling as we all do to understand and accept the full meaning of God’s mercy. For this I am grateful to him. The search for truth enabled—no, not just enabled but made possible— by the realization and acceptance of God’s mercy, and by our overwhelming gratitude for it, lies at or near the heart of the faith

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